Oh Life!

Life is what we make it, and also what we think about on a daily basis. What do you think about most? What are your hopes and dreams? What secret desires lie hidden in your heart, just waiting to burst into the light? Recently I came across this YouTube channel, Dr. John Bergman, who talks about manifesting your desires by using the Be, Become and Do list. Basically what you do is write down 100 things that you would like to be, become or do, don’t limit yourself, anything goes here. After you get the 100 things down, you then rank them by 1 year, 5 years or 10 years. Then you take the top 5 from each year goal. These are the things you most want to achieve. Now you can set up tangible steps that are reasonable and achievable. I am using this to help hone what it is I want to accomplish over the next 10 years! It is fun and challenging and really opens up the creative process in a fun and positive way! Let me know if you try this and how it works for you! Wishing you the best life possible!  Here is the video link: Goal Setting 2017

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Life is an Adventure!

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Be your own explorer! Get out there! There is a big ole world just waiting to see you!

Love Yourself First

Love who you are, embrace who you are. Love yourself. When you love yourself, people can kind of pick up on that: they can see confidence, they can see self-esteem, and naturally, people gravitate towards you. Lilly Singh
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Loving yourself is the kindest and most wonderful gift you can give to yourself and to everyone else who you love and loves you. In order to have the most fulfilling life we can have, we must learn to love ourselves.

This means no criticizing yourself. Louise Hay suggests that we use the Mirror method to help us love ourselves and to root out those nagging self hatred thoughts. I have used this technique with success. All you do is to look into the mirror at yourself each morning and say, Your Name, I love you and accept you as you are now. For some this will be easier than others, some will have a  very hard time. But be persistent, loving yourself is a gift.

This also means being kind to yourself. You are a wonderful person with many gifts to share with the world. You are good enough for everyone and everything. You are amazing! Remember that you are one of a kind, there is no one on earth just like you!

Use positive affirmations to clear up the awful negative self talk we all give ourselves. When you think you cannot, turn it around and affirm that you can! Take me for instance, I have struggled with cigarette smoking for more than 20 years. It is a daily struggle for me to give up this drug. But I realize that I must because harming my body with nicotine and the other nasty chemicals are negating all the good things I do for myself. So I forgive myself when I “fall off the wagon”. I try not to berate myself, as I am a daily work in progress!

Be grateful. Simple, yet so profound. Practicing gratitude helps us to see all the good things in our lives, and not just the bad. We can all get stuck in what I like to call “not being able to see the forest for the trees”. When we can only see problems, we forget that there is more to life than just this or that. Sometimes I can get really overwhelmed with my chronic illness, but stepping back and being grateful just to be alive helps!

These are just a few tips! Let your light shine for all the world and for you!

 

 

Grandiose Dreaming

Do you take the time to dream about what your optimal life would be? In this busy life few of us actually take the time to dream about what we really want in this life. Remember when you were a child and you would look at the sky and dream unlimited dreams?

Dreaming is so important to our lives, how else will we be able to envision what our lives could be?

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In the One Year Success Plan by Jim Rohn, there is a wonderful section at the 6th week about dreaming grandiose dreams. Take some time to just dream! From those dreams you will be able to come up with goals to create the best life you can!

Make sure to free write your dreams, then you can go through them and place them in order of importance. Once that is done, then you can make a vision board! Vision boards are amazing tools to help you visualize concretely your dreams and aspirations! Dream big, dream grandiosely!!! This is your life! Make the most of it you can by dreaming!!!!

Silence and Pain

So many people have pain, whether it is emotional and/or physical pain, that is kept hidden inside and is rarely ever discussed. When pain is kept hidden it can create an environment that produces more pain and possible dis-ease. As humans, we all have a need to be understood. This need is overridden by the post-modern attitude that we keep silent. The only way to truly be understood is to communicate our pain to others. This is incredibly difficult for many of us.

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We need to build trust and a safe space to communicate with the ones we care about. Only in a safe environment, that is built upon compassion and empathy, can true communication thrive. Active listening and reflecting, using non-judgmental language, clearly stating our needs and feelings will facilitate a loving and compassionate connection which will enhance and strengthen communication.

Love is the foundation on which we build our sense of safety and security. To love oneself is the first step to understanding. In knowing ourselves, our emotions, our feelings, we can clearly communicate to ourselves first. Once we are aware of our emotions and needs, we can then clearly communicate them to others. Being heard is incredibly important for all of us. To be understood is a basic need we all have.

Too many people suffer needlessly, simply because society says that silence is strength.

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But to be silent in the face of pain is overwhelming. Many of us suffer because we fear being vulnerable, or because we have been shut down by others in our past. Fear causes many to lash out in anger. Anger often makes things worse. But anger can also be transformative. Once we realize where the anger is coming from then we can transform our anger into understanding.

Clear, open, needs based communication is the key to having successful conversations that deal with any and all situations, not just pain, not just anguish and depression. Everyone of us needs to be heard, to be validated, to be understood. Use compassion in speaking and listening. Be compassionate to yourself and to all others. Come from a place of love when dealing with another person. Let´s let love and compassion be the guideposts to better communication.